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From "Miss energetic" to "All I want to do is rest"

What man wants to be with a woman who cannot feel desire? I use to look forward to being able to spend our time together because our child is getting old enough to be self sufficient, but now I only worry what the future will bring.

After battling for 2 years, going from "Miss energetic plus" to "All I want to do is rest" because I was feeling exhausted all the time, I was totally devastated to find out from my doctor that my hormone levels are completely depleted and that I am menopausal. The blood work determined that I was not just menopausal, but am full-blown menopausal.

I was going to the doctor on a regular basis because my iron was low and also had B12 deficiency. He was treating me for these things, but somehow I still could not rise above my exhausted feeling and also by now my feelings of depression. I asked him to check for other things and one of them was my hormone level because I was also not having much sexual desire.

He might as well have told me I was dying because that was exactly how I felt. My body is not working, I can handle the tiredness, the night sweats and even the depression, but I am a 47 year old women in the prime of her life with a decent marriage (at least it was).

Now I am not so certain. What man wants to be with a woman who cannot feel desire? I use to look forward to being able to spend our time together because our child is getting old enough to be self sufficient, but now I only worry what the future will bring.

My doctor put me on Fem HRT, but that does nothing for my libido. I thought that I would have at least until I was around 60 before losing that. I am becoming bitter about how life treats a women, and growing old does not seem so sweet.

Men can get Viagra. What can a women get?

Elizabeth

 

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Updated  05/15/2010